Money & Reverence: Receive
What is The Reverence Framework again?
The Reverence Framework is a six-step trauma-sensitive embodied, spiritual, psychological, and energetically rooted approach to healing your relationship with money. I created this for myself and for soulful, sensitive service providers such as coaches, therapists, psychologists, creatives, and healing professionals.
This framework helps you do your money differently and move from scarcity wounding to abundance, both of which empower you to create and experience your vision of a more than enough business and life.
So let's dive in.
Step 5: Receive
To receive. Receiving is the fifth step of The Reverence Framework. To receive the abundance of life is to experience the sweetness of more than enough. It is one of the most beautiful and regenerative aspects of The Reverence Framework because women struggle to receive.
The struggle to receive is very often related to family, societal, and cultural conditioning and experiences. It is a corrosive aspect of scarcity wounding because it speaks to qualities that are often celebrated in women.
Can you hear the echo of your own voice?
I just have to take what I'm given.
I don't deserve it.
Others' needs are always more important than mine.
It's selfish for me to want anything for myself.
What I want is frivolous.
Oh, I don't need it. I shouldn't charge. I should give it away for free. I should keep my prices low.
And on and, on. I hear these narratives repeatedly from the women I work with, and they are things that I have said, too.
Womens' selflessness is exalted in our culture.
Culturally and societally, the unspoken rules of being a woman dictate selflessness being seen and not heard, not bragging, not thinking of oneself, always prioritizing others.
In and of itself, this is a facet of scarcity wounding. These narratives are woven into the fabric of other scarcity wounds or traumas that we experience, which effectively closes off women's ability to see and to truly take in the goodness of life. But not only that, it also closes us off from being able to ask for and expect more.
To receive is a verb.
The first four steps of the reverence framework - to root and ground, to remember, restore, and to recalibrate - these steps support regulation of the nervous system, develop compassionate presence, help to unwind traumatic imprints in the body psyche, and invite recalibration of the narrative around money, enoughness, and worthiness. All of that good work leads us to a greater capacity to receive.
To receive is a verb. It is an action and a choice, but it is one that is often not available to women who have experienced trauma. To receive requires a willingness to open. So The Reverence Framework takes women to a place where it becomes safer to open to receive. When that choice to receive can be made, there are really three facets to receiving.
The three facets of receiving.
Know what you want. Not only must you know what you want, but that you have your own permission to ask for it and to have it. To know what you desire requires honesty and presence, both of which are developed and grown in the practice of The Reverence Framework.
Know what you don't want and that it's okay to say no. This requires a deep sense of embodied safety and courage. Again, these are qualities that we develop as we practice The Reverence Framework.
Have a willingness to receive without waiting for the other shoe to drop. This requires gratitude and trust. Again, qualities that we build through healing, and these three things are vital to be able to receive.
To receive is powerful medicine.
To receive is the ability to feel supported, to feel well-resourced - both internally and externally - to welcome the fullness of life. And this is really the medicine that softens the tissues that have been braced as a result of scarcity wounding.
To receive opens you to true abundance, which is so much richer than simple financial gain, but it also makes it possible to claim that you are open to and worthy of receiving more than enough - including more than enough money to live well.