If residual trauma is part of your story
The one non-negotiable to grow a business so your work doesn't consistently activate your nervous system in challenging ways.
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Trauma is a human experience.
How our bodies handle trauma over the long term varies dramatically for many different reasons, which researchers are just starting to understand. Many of my clients and students identify themselves as carrying trauma imprints in their bodies that impact their life and their choices.
You have to tend yourself like you know that’s true.
Here’s the truth - as a woman who wants to grow a business, this is really important to know. Because if you are a woman who struggles to regulate your nervous system response under stress, being in business will be a path of healing and spiritual growth by necessity if you want your business to grow and thrive.
The number one non-negotiable.
The world needs your magic, your love, and your wisdom. But if your trauma response gets activated too many times, your body psyche will shut it down. It will be near impossible to do what needs doing.
Why? Because the expectations and the actions that are needed and necessary are too much for your nervous system. The kindest, most empowering, and fierce thing you can do is to give yourself the care and support you need.
I know that there is a story in your head that tells you that you need “too much”. You might have a sly inner voice telling you that marketing and setting up your business and charging appropriately for what you do isn’t hard so what the heck is wrong with you?? Maybe you think you are needy or weak. Or perhaps you have a strong narrative about what you *should* be able to handle.
You need what you need.
That’s it. You must give yourself permission for prioritizing sleep, movement, and nourishing food. You must give yourself the gift of support. You must have the phone numbers of at least five people who are ready to hold you when you feel alone and overwhelmed by sales calls or marketing emails or needing to learn a new system.
There was a moment when marketing became so challenging for me that I stopped. It was horrible. I knew my business would not succeed, and my body psyche did not care. I was pushing myself through the fear, the anxiety, and the overwhelm because, “It’s too much. Normal people don’t have these kinds of problems…”
Oh my heart. Please don’t do this to yourself.
Only when I full stop owned that my nervous system needs more - more vegetables, more sleep, more love, more nature, more divine connection, more warm blankets, more coaching, more honest friendships… only then was I able to start marketing again without overwhelming anxiety.
Whether you identify as someone with a sensitive nervous system or not, if you find yourself unable to do what you want to do to get where you want to go, consider kindness. Consider fierce love and care. Consider friends and professional support. Consider more rest.
Consider giving the soft animal of your body what it truly needs (thank you to Mary Oliver for that evocative phrase) for you to be the woman you want to be.
Tell me everything - where do you know (or suspect) that trauma interferes with who you want to be and who you are becoming in your business? Just knowing and naming can shift so much.
I'm not saying that you wrote this just for me, I'm just saying that it felt like it :-) Thank you, and YES.
Yes to a sensitive nervous system that most people I am around don't understand (or don't know that they are also sensitive...)
This is helpful in general but especially because the times that I get really engaged and make some headway in my business, I not only feel good and confident, but I also get anxious... Partly it just seems like a lot. But it also easy to then focus more on my business and do less of caring for myself.