Creating a New Legacy

The not so often discussed cost of choosing a different path when it come to conditioning around money, work, and worth as a woman.

Oh, families.

Nothing impacts our relationship to money and worthiness more than our family of origin.

Money, class identity, and societal norms are such meaningful ways that families (and communities) feel that they belong to one another. One of the most critical questions that every woman I work with must answer is whether she is willing to energetically, spiritually, and emotionally break ranks with her family and societal legacy regarding money and worthiness.

Consider the narrative you may have taken in regarding "rich" people.
Consider the narrative you may have taken in regarding appropriate kinds of work.
Consider the narrative you may have taken in about speaking up and asking for what you need.

Now consider the myriad cultural messages you may have received as a woman about earning, addictive spending, managing money... the list goes on.

This is not about blame but informed self-responsibility.

Before you decide to unravel and heal from the conditioning of scarcity and capability, you may be carrying; you must be sure you are willing to say no. Are you willing to step away and be seen as someone who doesn't conform? Honestly, you must be prepared for the consequences of that decision.

I believe it is entirely worth it.

However, I never want to downplay the challenges that growth and deliberate change can create in peoples' lives. I certainly would have chosen the same path even if I had known how disruptive it would be - but no one told me there were potential downsides. I genuinely love that I am a woman who enjoys prosperity and financial empowerment, which is totally different from the family I grew up in and the messages I received from society.

Transformation is amazing, but there are tradeoffs.

The cost of transformation isn’t a reason to turn away from creating a new money legacy. However, knowing that even choices that move you toward the life you most desire have their tradeoffs is essential as you begin, or continue, the inner work that allows you to be the woman you want to be.

Tell me everything - have you encountered the cost of transformation? Has it been worth it?